Skip to main content

Why I Never Force My Kids to Kiss Their Grandparents (Or Anyone Else) | The Official Mayim Bialik Blog at Kveller

Mayim Bialik is quickly becoming my parenting hero.  I think it's great that she  is helping normalise attachment parenting and RIE into the mainstream. Our culture has been in need of a public figure who openly discusses how important the choices we make as parents are. 

 I love the fact she's so open about breastfeeding too. I'm not sure why we're afraid to talk about breast feeding, but it's wrong.  Breastfeeding needs to be discussed (and practiced) in public in order to normalise it for the next generation.

And finally,  what's really awesome about Mayim is that she's taken time out during award season to write this lovely blog about how and why its not a good idea to force your kids to display an emotion they don't feel

"Forcing (even gently) children to kiss people they don’t want to indicates to children that they don’t know their own sense of safety, comfort, their bodies, and what to do with them. Period. I know I’m overly cerebral. I know I think too much and I know that Attachment Parenting people like me are accused of giving our children too much of a voice, but you know what? I’ve seen this done a lot of ways and I like my kids having a voice. And I wouldn’t trade one over-thought moment with my children for anything, because they always tell me exactly what they need and I then get to handle it. If for whatever reason my children don’t feel like being physically affectionate, I honor that. Period."

You can read the  whole blog here The Official Mayim Bialik Blog at Kveller

 It's a nice article and true. Our kids need to be comfortable enough to express their emotions clearly whether or not it conforms to the expectations of others, and it is our job as parents to offer them support when they feel they are being pressurised to do something against their instincts. 


Popular posts from this blog

Little Bloom- Cloth Nappy reviews

If you are a newbie in cloth its hard to know what to buy. I've been using  Cloth Nappies  for 16 months with my first born, and am preparing to have two in cloth when my daughter arrives in May. You could say I'm somewhat of cloth nappy pro. I've moved on from my start up stash, and invest in nappies that will see us through til froggy potty trains, and ideally ones his baby sister can use afterwards too! Pocket nappies are great for this purpose and this week I'm reviewing the little bloom nappies You can grab little bloom nappies on  amazon  from as little as £2.89 delivered. So they are a cheap option but are they cheerful enough to do the job?

Starting our kitchen garden

Growing our own food has been an ambition of my husband and I. We both really value locally sourced produce,  and enjoy spending time outdoors.  In our first home together (a basement flat in the city centre) we planted anything and everything we could in planters on the windowsill.   I had green beans trailing up the bars of our windows. They bolted and twirled up the bars but never got enough light  to produce anything edible. Then we moved into our first pub which had masses of outdoor space, unfortunately,  all car park and no dirt. We managed to sustain some hanging baskets with strawberries and a few herb planters, but that was about it.  Now we are in our new home.  A lovely country pub in the new forest, whiich offers a private garden just for our little family.  We moved here when I was 8 months pregnants and ever since, I've been desperate to make the most of it.  Since the new year we've been planning what to do with this neglected space.  I found this

Lovely leftovers- healthy peri-peri turkey

I hope all of my lovely blog readers had a fabulous Christmas. We were pretty hectic with 10 for lunch on the big day, and 20 eating on Christmas night. We were kindly given our turkey this year by our local farm shop, we run with weekly meat draw at our pub for them. It was a little larger than I would have ordered otherwise. I got them to remove and bone the legs, so I could stuff them and roast them as mini joints. They were really yummy, but we had a lot of meat left over. I used up my turkey and veggie (carrots, parsnips, sprouts) left overs to make this yummy peri-peri one pot dish. Which is yummy but nice and light after the Christmas carb fest. Made in the slow cooker in just over an hour, it's a great meal to chuck on before a walk in this lovely wintery weather we are having. Last night I simply chopped up the left overs into chunks and sprinkled with peri-peri seasoning. Then this morning I put a small handful of pasta in my slow cooker with a third of a pint of wa